7 signs you are self abandoning (AGAIN)

Let’s Be Honest for a Second

Self-abandonment doesn’t always look like a dramatic “rock bottom.”Most of the time, it’s quiet. It hides in the little ways you choose everyone else over yourself. And if you’re a high-achiever, a businesswoman, or the one everyone comes to for advice?You probably don’t even notice it — because you’ve been applauded for it.

But here’s the truth: you can’t be the CEO of your life if you keep firing yourself from your own needs.

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But let's get into it:

1. You Say Yes When Your Whole Body Screams No

You overcommit, overextend, and call it “being reliable.”It’s not reliability — it’s self-betrayal dressed up as loyalty.

2. You Make Decisions From Fear, Not Desire

You take the safe client, the safe relationship, the safe dream — because you’re afraid the bigger one will reject you. Fear is a terrible CEO. Desire builds empires.

3. You Shrink Your Opinions to Keep the Peace

You water down your truth so you don’t make anyone uncomfortable. But here’s the problem: every time you silence yourself, you become a little more invisible to yourself, too.

4. You Treat Rest Like a Reward Instead of a Right

You work until you’re exhausted, then crash.Leaders know: rest isn’t a luxury — it’s a business strategy. Your creativity, intuition, and leadership thrive when you’re not running on fumes.

5. You Abandon Your Own Standards to Be Chosen

You lower the bar so they’ll stay.But every time you do that, you teach yourself that you aren’t worth the bar you set.

6. You Ignore Your Body’s Red Flags

Headaches, burnout, anxiety — you push through because “there’s no time to slow down.”But your body is your first team member. If you ignore her, the whole operation suffers.

7. You Don’t Put Your Name on Your Own Calendar

You schedule everyone else’s needs before yours. You wouldn’t run a company without prioritizing the CEO — so why run your life that way?

The Hard Truth and the Good News

Self-abandonment feels safe in the moment. But long-term? It costs you everything — your energy, your joy, your ability to show up as the powerful leader you were born to be.

The good news? You can rehire yourself, today. You can choose yourself without apology. You can lead your life the way you’d lead your business — with vision, strategy, and fierce self-respect.

Your Turn: Where have you been self-abandoning lately? And what’s one small way you can put yourself back on your own priority list this week?

Put it in the comments down below, so we can help you celebrate this big win.

Liefs,

Eny