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What actually happens during somatic healing? A lived breakdown of nervous system healing stages and regulation.

It’s the 2nd of January .Two days into the new year. I just mildly intoxicated myself with cleaning products and steam — courtesy of my newest love affair: the steam cleaner . There’s something deeply regulating about watching dirt dissolve. About humming songs from a hundred different genres while restoring order to something tangible. And right in the middle of it — hands busy, mind quiet — a memory surfaced. A conversation from New Year’s Eve dinner at a friend’s place. He

A deeply personal reflection on leaving people pleasing behind, embracing your shadow, and learning that being disliked is part of becoming whole.

Hotel Âme, Rotterdam — Sunday noon. I’m sitting here with the best chai latte in town in my hands (if you follow me on TikTok, you probably saw it in my stories), even though I wasn’t technically allowed  to open my laptop. Laptop-free Sundays, they say. And yet — somehow the universe still found a loophole for me to write. A small reminder that when you stop forcing, life creates space. And that’s exactly what I want to talk about today: Radical acceptance — the doorway to s

You can’t fight an enemy you refuse to name. Shadowboxing With Pain For years I thought I was fighting anxiety, procrastination, burnout, people-pleasing, overthinking. But those weren’t the enemies. They were symptoms. Shadows. And I was shadowboxing — exhausting myself against opponents that were never the real threat. The truth? You can’t win a fight with an opponent you know nothing about. If you don’t name your wound, you’ll spend years fighting smoke instead of the fire

You can’t save people from toxic family systems when they’re still loyal to the chaos. Here’s why rescuing someone from the same trauma you escaped often ends in self-abandonment, depression, and spiritual damage.

For most of us, the most painful part of transformation isn’t the ending… it’s the space after  the ending and before  the new beginning. That silent, uncomfortable middle space where nothing feels stable yet. You’re not who you used to be —but you’re not fully who you’re becoming either. This is the threshold season. This is where most women panic. Because the threshold doesn’t give you answers — it gives you surrender. And surrender is terrifying when your identity was buil

There’s one day a week where I rot. No TV. No music. No podcasts. No productivity. I don’t do laundry. I don’t run errands. I don’t answer messages. I just… exist. Some people would call this lazy. I used to call it lazy too — until I realized my body wasn’t asking for more hustle. It was begging me for silence. This practice of rotting  saved me after burnout. It regulates my nervous system, restores my creativity, and reminds me that I’m human before I’m anything else. Here

Learn how to be loyal to yourself after years of over-giving and self-betrayal. The Pain Alchemist explores what real loyalty means and how to reclaim your energy through her Loyalty Reclamation Ritual.

Hyper-independence isn’t strength. It’s unhealed trust trauma. Here’s why you learned to carry life alone — and how to begin healing without losing yourself.

Decentering is freedom. Freedom to redirect your energy toward what nourishes you instead of what drains you.

A powerful letter to every cycle breaker healing generational trauma. These 8 truths will remind you why your healing matters and why you must keep going.

Gentle healing isn’t always enough. Discover Radical Healing: The 3-Part Guide — 5 signs you need it, what you stop doing, and what you start doing to finally break cycles of people-pleasing, toxic relationships, and self-abandonment.

Because even strong women deserve to be held. The Weight No One Sees There’s a particular kind of exhaustion that comes from being the...

The innocent girl was never really you — she was your shield. The Innocent Girl Was a Survival Strategy Deep down, you always knew. The...

Gentle healing calms pain, but radical healing transforms it. Learn the difference, and how to know when it’s time to move from gentle to radical healing.

Healing isn’t about reinventing yourself. It’s about reclaiming the version of you that existed before the world told you to shrink, please, and stay silent.

Discover why killing off the “good girl” is essential for empaths. Learn how integrating your dark feminine side creates balance, power, and freedom through raw, personal stories of healing and shadow work.

There’s a hierarchy even among empaths — and not all of them thrive. Here’s the blog post about why becoming a Top-Tier Empath is your biggest flex and how I’m doing it.

Learn how to set boundaries without guilt. A soulful, strategic guide for empaths & people-pleasers ready to protect their energy without feeling selfish.